No. 6 Definition of A Side Chick

Oh, shame on you for being a side chick! The age old definition of a side chick is a woman, who without regard to a man's commitment to another woman, will engage in activities that only a mans girlfriend/ wife should be doing for him. Usually, the side chick gets some emotional, physical or monetary reward in exchange. We imagine her to be a super fine ass baddie. She usually knows all about the "main chick" and the man usually portrays his "main chick" to be some crazy, psycho super evil woman who treats him like dirt and causes drama in his life. This is how he justifies being a cheater. More recently, women brag about the side line position they play. Yes, brag about it girl!! When was that ever cute? Who raised these little heffas?? The blatant disrespect and devaluation of the sanctity of marriage and relationships is... Simply put.. Disgusting.

But we aren't talking about these kinds of side chicks today. We will leave that up to the rappers and bitter women to discuss. We are talking about the good women who just happen to be unknowingly sharing a man with another unsuspecting woman.  They think they are in a committed, faithful relationship with a good man and ironically are trying to do all they can to keep his attention on them, and not these lurking side chicks. To understand what a side chick is, let me just come out and tell you. 

Dear Main Chick,

You're a side chick too.  

Love, Erika. 

There are always two SIDES to a story. Two halves make a whole. It takes two to tango. You get where I'm going? No? Ok, let me explain. If you've ever been cheated on you received side chick treatment. So maybe he was with you longer than the other woman, so what?! Maybe he bought you more gifts, paid your bills, so what?! Maybe you have a great relationship with his family, who cares? Maybe you even have a kid together, your point? None of these things takes away from the fact that this man cheated on you and her. Disrespected you and her.  Betrayed you and her and was disloyal to you and her. A sidebar also, his family, no matter how much they love you, is his family, not yours(but that's another blog post). He had both of you on your respective SIDES of his life. Doing things for another woman he would never do for you and vice versa. Doing things he was never known to do or enjoy doing with you and vice versa. Why? Because you don't bring out that SIDE of him. Both of you playing your respective roles. Both of you hearing what's happening on the SIDE of his life that you know about.  Both of you hearing two different SIDES of the same story. Both of you fulfilling whatever void the other SIDE doesn't. He is very careful to make sure that neither one of you is ever off SIDES also. He's very attentive and he may even seem jealous if another man gives you attention or your ex comments on your social media post.  Is it fucked up? Yea, I'm sorry but put on your big girls panties. Shit happens. The man did it, not the other woman. Him. For some reason, that only he knows, this woman does it for him. But so do you. He loves things about her, but he loves things about you too. In the event that he loses one of you, his crazy ass is literally going through all the motions of an internal breakup.  He's selfish. He going to another woman because she does something for him or has something that he wants. But so do you.  How can he be willing to risk his family, his life or you for this other woman? She probably asks herself the same question. I don't know. Ask him. 

MAIN CHICK VS. SIDE CHICK

I personally despise both of these terms. If you are calling yourself a main chick, you are first and foremost STUPID! You are implying that the man you call YOURS, has other women. You're condoning such behavior and giving him an out. "I never said these things to that other woman. I never did these things for that other woman." You're saying that you come first before all these other women on the side. Listen to yourself!  Think about that. Remember that time he couldn't show up for something or had to do something else for his friend/cousin/brother or had to go to work? That side chick, came first before you, Ms. "Main Chick Who Always Comes First". All those dates he took her on, all the time they spent together, all the times he begged her to take him back after an argument. Yes, she came before you that time too.  The only "chick" any woman should aspire to be is the ONLY chick. By calling yourself a main chick you are justifying being cheated on through comparison of the things a man does for you versus what he does for other woman. He shouldn't be doing any of those things for another woman when he is in a committed relationship with you. A COMMITTED RELATIONSHIP is exactly that, Commitment, loyalty and honesty to you and the relationship you share. Last time I checked though, my man shouldn't be doing ANYTHING for another woman that I can't meet and that he didn't run by me first or tell me. You should be his first, second, third, fourth and so forth. Not just his first.  His everything. After God of course. 

I don't have all the answers, I absolutely didn't write the book on this and I'm don't always get it right. But this is my opinion on it. Read below for a few side chick definitions from my readers and don't forget to comment, like and share or shoot me an email Erika@imerikaking.com

  • A "side chick" is a woman that provides an emotion-void contribution to a man's life outside of his relationship - usually for the purposes of sex. The side dish to the main course. Under the guise of side-chickery: she must stay in her place. She is not someone the man dates - she's strictly a "home girl" - you know the girl he keeps in the house. They chill and sleep together. That's it. IG: @melody.angelique 
  • A girl who knows a guy has a girl already but don't mind being his little extra activity when he's not with his main! IG: @pixbyric
  • A woman that wants to believe shes the only chick. Knows that shes not. But still is ok with the man because she feels she is treated better or is more privileged than the other women/woman the man deals with. IG: @living_off_xperience
  • I feel it is knowing that you go in with no expectations and no emotions! You obviously know your place in the relationship, now you just have to keep the emotions out of it. You are his after hours piece his don't wanna talk piece his don't need to be bothered piece. You are and have to settle with a gift or a meal from time to time, keep in mind you are not going out for that meal, he will bring it to your house "maybe" otherwise he will ask "what have you cooked"? A female most always say they don't mind because it gives her more freedom to do what she wants and see who she wants, most always she is waiting for his call and cancels whatever she has going on because she's unsure when she will have the chance to spend time with him. Yes! You guessed it! A side chick always always "get caught up!" Feelings......lol IG: @jazzyjet2
  • Side chick is exactly that... My friends or family don't know who she is we don't go out really during the day if we do its always out the way.. having sex with her. She's basically convenient but not better than my girl it's extra benefits.. letting her believe she is the only one or it could be where she's OK with her spot she know he had someone and is OK with getting whatever part of him she can. Talk to her when ya girl not around -Kyle
  • Any person who has a side anything, whether it be dude or chick it's because there is something the person they're with is not completely full feeling them. It could be emotional, physical, mental, spiritual; your not getting that stimulation so you find it in someone else or something else. It doesn't have to be sex, it's anything inappropriate that your partner would not allow and you have that relationship in secret.IG: @Coming2amerika
  • Side chick - a female that assumes the role of the main chick when the main chick isn't acting accordingly IG: @_kingloskii
  • Definition of a side chick and in this case to a married man is a woman who has the time thats why she gained that title as the side chick...and what i mean by time is time to be fucked....time to talk...time to text time to give time that the wife lacks because she's outproviding for her family just as the man should be doing which would in turn decrease the want of...the side chick... She allows anything...shes aware of the wife but just dont care...she doesnt have to cook she goes out and uses her money at that (makes her a excellent side chick what man really wants to spend on the side chick....) she doesnt have to clean up after him unless shes neat and dosen't want his shoes socks clothes on the middle of the floor... she has self esteem thats clearly low due to her not having her own man thats why she settles as the side chick....the side chick also does amazing things...buys the man things and even the kids....sometime her money even helps with a bill or two...but on the real...it saddens me to discuss side chicks because they still getting time...and it angers me that the man has to have a side chick or even have the time whrn hes married.  Really why live a double life men....why not invest in just one woman? Its so easy and very inexpensive...Trust Me!  IG: @perfectionsmua
  •  A woman that does the things a man's main chick won't in some cases.. Also, the woman that a man will talk to when he doesn't want to talk to his main if they're not talking. Sometimes the side chick is there to make a man feel good about himself when his main brings him down. IG: @kingj_almighty_lion 
  • A "side chick" can be look at in different lights...-A chick that doesn't know she's his side chick and think she's his main.   -A chick that knows the guy is in a relationship but stills fuck with the guy because it's benefiting her in a way.  -If she knows she's the "side chick" 9/10 she's doing things the main chick isn't doing or she might be doing them better....some may ask well why don't he just be with the "side chick" if that's the case...in response the guy may have more of an emotional connection with the main so he doesn't want to break that bond even tho his actions is cheating -In essence the side chick is the sides dish to the entrée IG: @kayola986
  • Definition of a side chick and in this case to a married man is a woman who has the time thats why she gained that title as the side chick...and what i mean by time is time to be fucked....time to talk...time to text time to give time that the wife lacks because she's outproviding for her family just as the man should be doing which would in turn decrease the want of...the side chick... She allows anything...shes aware of the wife but just dont care...she doesnt have to cook she goes out and uses her money at that (makes her a excellent side chick what man really wants to spend on the side chick....) she doesnt have to clean up after him unless shes neat and dosen't want his shoes socks clothes on the middle of the floor... she has self esteem thats clearly low due to her not having her own man thats why she settles as the side chick....the side chick also does amazing things...buys the man things and even the kids....sometime her money even helps with a bill or two...but on the real...it saddens me to discuss side chicks because they still getting time...and it angers me that the man has to have a side chick or even have the time whrn hes married.  Really why live a double life men....why not invest in just one woman? Its so easy and very inexpensive...Trust Me!  IG: @perfectionsmua
  • A woman that does the things a man's main chick won't in some cases.. Also, the woman that a man will talk to when he doesn't want to talk to his main if they're not talking. Sometimes the side chick is there to make a man feel good about himself when his main brings him down. IG: @kingj_almighty_lion
  • A "side chick" can be look at in different lights...-A chick that doesn't know she's his side chick and think she's his main.  -A chick that knows the guy is in a relationship but stills fuck with the guy because it's benefiting her in a way.  -If she knows she's the "side chick" 9/10 she's doing things the main chick isn't doing or she might be doing them better....some may ask well why don't he just be with the "side chick" if that's the case...in response the guy may have more of an emotional connection with the main so he doesn't want to break that bond even tho his actions is cheating -In essence the side chick is the sides dish to the entrée IG: @kayola986
  • the other woman; also known as the mistress; a female that is neither a male's wife or girlfriend who has relations with the male while he is in another relationship. IG: @vicki_nosecrets1 
  • The female that a dude has on hold to replace or substitute for you on your bad days. Usually a whole relationship that coincides with his current one. -Allison Bryant  

Thanks everyone!  

Love, 

Erika King